Having Child Behavior
Problems?
Try the Redirect Method
It
is natural to have child behavior problems. Children tend to test the
rules and question authority, but many parents feel frustrated when
their children do not behave properly. It is simply tiring to repeat
yourself while trying to correct their behavior. It is also
embarrassing when you are out somewhere and your child begins to kick,
hit, spit and generally misbehave. So how can we solve this child
behavior problem? I personally like using the Redirect Method. It is
one of the simplest parenting skill I know.
Before I explain
how it works, you must
first try to put yourself in your child's shoes (it might be a
little tight) and imagine the world from their perspective.
Throughout a child's day, adults continuously try to correct their
behavior
by telling them: "DON'T
do that," "That's NOT
nice!" "You are NOT
allowed," "Stop
that!"
After
awhile, we would tune out too. Plus, you have to agree that the latter
order are highly negative in nature.
Instead,
try using the Redirecting
Method. It is easy to follow and I promise you that your
child behavior problems will be solved.
So how
does redirecting work?
Children
can do all those 'bad' things as long as they do it in the correct
setting.
 For
Example:
If
a child is hitting his brother say this:
"We do not hit your brother, we hit a.... drum!" And give them a drum
or a pot or anything else that they can hit. We are allowed to hit certain
things, just not
our brother.
Here is
Another Example:
If
a child is spitting during dinner time, you can say: "If you would
like to spit please go to the garbage or the sink."
If they continue spitting, then remove them from the table and
take them to the sink- a place where we can spit.
When
my son was younger we played the 'finish the sentence'
game, which goes a little like this:
I
would say: what do we hit?
and he would answer: A
drum!
I
would say: what do we kick?
and he would answer: A
ball!
I
would say: what do we bite? and
he would answer: A fruit!
I
would say: what do we push?
and he would answer: A
button!
I
would say: where do we yell?
and he would answer: Outside!
I
found it helped to reinforce the behavior and when a situation occurred
and he pushed someone or yelled in the house, I immediately asked him
"where do we yell?" and he would automatically say: "Outside".
Following
up with redirecting:
Actions
speak louder than words.
The
first
time your child uses inappropriate behavior, simply remind them: "We
yell outside."
If they continue then take them outside until they are done their
yelling.
I
once had to stand with my son outside our house on a very cold winter
day, but trust me, he never yelled in the house again. To this
day
he reminds me of the time he yelled and we went outside.
Looking
for more solutions to your child behavior problems?
At Child
Discipline with Love
they believe that permanent child discipline can be achieved only by
way of love and by no other means or methods. Selective use of specific
discipline techniques serves the purpose if you use them with lots of
love. It certainly works where punishment, scolding, spanking, and
nagging
have failed.
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